Sometimes We Have to Say It Out Loud to See It Differently
Silence protects our assumptions from correction—and sometimes those assumptions are making us miserable. We often think the purpose of vulnerability is to let someone else know us. But sometimes, letting ourselves be known is how we finally come to know ourselves.
I Can’t Be Upset With You for Not Meeting a Need I Won’t Express
We often expect the people closest to us to somehow know what we need—then feel hurt when they don’t. But intimacy requires more than being understood. It requires the courage to make ourselves understandable. We can’t expect someone to meet a need we’re unwilling to express.